CELEBRATIONS

These are some thoughts for those of you who are dealing with the loss of a child, and have to get through that first year, and its celebrations, and holidays.
I found,that when facing that first Mother's Day,I just didn't think I was gonna make it.Right then,I decided that I was gonna grab the bull by the horns, and throw
a big celebration in honor of my son's birthday.I called some of his friends for dinner and we had steak and potatoes. We all told laughable stories about his escapades as if he were still there! We laughed and laughed, and everyone had a memorable time(Me included!)
At Thanksgiving,I placed his name card at an empty plate, but that meant to me, that he was still here!
At Christmas,I hung his stocking on the stairs and placed some yellow roses in it.I've done this now for 12 years. My daughter wrote our blessing for that first Christmas dinner, and it was in tribute to her brother, which gave her a huge amount of healing.
There are lots of things you can do, to heal.....
They take time, and the willingness to want to heal......
My thoughts and prayers are with you......
Becky

ANOTHER YEAR

Where do I begin,ladies? Another year has gone by and another Mama has given back to God, her precious child.....
It's hard, we know.....There ought to be a law against it,right?
You'd think that after carrying that little thing for close to nine months and watching them grow up,that it would give us some kind of guarantee,......... but no!
As scripture says,"He chose me; I did not choose Him", so I kinda like to think that He "chose" me to carry this special task, because He knew I would be able to go through the whole process of giving my son back, and not be bitter, or angry.Afterall, he was God's child, long before He created him for me.
Anyhoo,this time together, is really about a bunch of Mom's who come together and heal......
It may take time, but that's okay.We don't push anything on anybody.I just happen to love my Lord deeply, and it shows.He carried me through a brain hemorrage and being in a coma for 2 months, and much more, so I trust in Him an awful lot!
We share alot of neat ideas and talk about our children, in an atmosphere where it's safe to do so. You don't have anybody telling you NOT to keep talking about them, and that's so special.
These ladies are friends now. Friends I may never have met, had I not lost my son. Oh,I would take him back, in a skinny minute, but, ya know, when you love the Lord, you can rest assured that you will see them again, and we do!
I love the fact, that I have a son in Heaven, who has some friends in Heaven, that he didn't know here on earth, and that they have the neatest mother's,that I do know here on earth!
All because of my son........
Becky

THANK YOU

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Kind and loving Father,I thank You,for being in the midst of these dear ladies, when we come together.You have taken something that has been so painful, and given it a touch of sweetness, that we so apppreciate.You have taken our pain,and remolded it, into a caring for each other, and You have given us an insight into the hurts of others that we might not have known before.You have provided this place where we can fellowship, and remember our children, without feeling guilty, and allow some healing to begin.May our praise to You, be as a fragrant aroma, of our love and devotion, as You are, to those we hold so dearly within our hearts.
I ask these things in Your Sovereign and Holy name,amen.......
Becky
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