WE CAME TOGETHER

It was a March, when we first came together.There were six of us,mothers, and we had given back to God, 6 sons, at some time in our lives, and we were coming together at my beach house for a weekend of healing. This consisted of walking on the beach;laughing;crying;eating, and just sharing of ourselves with each other ......
That March, we joined hands with Charlotte,Leslie,Cheryl,Ramelle,LaVonne,Jennifer, and myself. Our time together brought out pictures and lots of shared memories. It was okay to share these memories too, without fear of being misunderstood.
You had lost a child,and part of you was gone............. forever! This mom knew exactly what you felt like too, and it was okay......
Charlotte brought Sean's favorite "Blueberry Buckle", that first year, and will hopefully bring it every year...(please!) and I added my Chocolate Cherry Crunch. Grieving Mother's still like to eat!
There's a breakfront at the beachouse, where we automatically placed the pictures of our boys, and their little treasures. Each lady was given one of my "Really Woolly" sheep, that I love so much, as a rememberance of the weekend.
It's kinda hard, the first year, because you are getting to know each other, but oh,my goodness, what a bond, we have formed! There's alot of walking on the beach, and shell collecting, because the beach is just a healing place,in and of itself, anyway.
Being on the sound, makes it possible for us to witness some mighty spectaculoar sunsets too, so that's a double bonus!
People always ask me what we do on these weekends, and I have to tell them, that we do the same thing, that everybody else would do, only we have a sliver of our heart's missing, that we don't mind talking about, while we are there!
Infact, we can talk, all weekend, if we want, about our "missing links", and nobody tells us,"it's time to get over it". It is a beautiful weekend when we come together, in March and September, and alot of healing fun for us. These friendships are bonded together and sealed with something that is stronger than cement.
None of us are alike in personality, and yet our Lord has brought us together.I think that is probably the glue that holds each of us together. Some of the mom's have lost children through suicide; some through car accidents; some through hereditary complications; some even through agent orange results.......
It doesn't really matter how they died......... The fact is, that they are gone, and we still miss them!
Sadly, we seem to grow, with every year, which means another mother is having her heart strings ripped out. We've added several new hearts to our family that are a treasure to my friendship tree!Hugs go out to our newest mom's.....(oxoxoxoxo)
It's hard when you lose someone, but when it's your child, it's really rough, so please be gentle with us.There is a void in our hearts that will never go away, because we are their mom's forever.
Thank you,Lord, for this time together, and if you are a mom, who has lost a child, I hope these thoughts will help you heal, in some small way. Each of our ladies will add their own thoughts as the days go on.......
We owe our healing to our Lord and Savior,Jesus Christ.
Becky
April,2007